Living

The Secret

Worth

So here I am on the couch thinking about being a woman. I have always felt being a woman is magical and powerful.  I am not sure if I have sought out what others feel about being a woman.  I have had many conversations about knowing a woman's worth.  Too often we sit back and don't show others how to treat us, what we expect. We often assume they should know, but really how will they?  We have to teach others, family, friends, lovers, how to love and appreciate us. I know I spent my younger years, thinking "he should know me by now," "if she were truly my friend she would know better." Please, if I want it, I better ask for it or do it myself.  Lets look at love, I mean, if you aren't in love with yourself, how can you look for love from others.  You can have someone love you but really they aren't loving the true you, because you aren't appreciating who you are.  So ladies, lets start with lots of self love.  People can only be who they are.  So if you present your worth and they aren't treating you accordingly, why stay around?  Why even have a conversation about it?  Get up, say thank you and roll out of that spot.  Of course it can be difficult, but really whats more difficult being treated less then your worth, or moving forward to determine what your worth is.

How often has your gut told you, run, he is not good for you, she's not a good friend? How often have you ignored it, and they down the road kicked yourself for the chaos you are in later.  Listen to what your gut is telling you, I know it has never been wrong for me. 

I know I have had to remind myself of this very thought often!!  This includes jobs, homes, child, husband, family, family, and yes family again, and friends!!  Did my dynamics within these systems change, definitely. Were people hurt or left behind, yes. Yet I also could embrace the love my husband offered me more,I became a better mother, I could truly love all the parts of friends (even when I wanted to strangle them), I could let go of those who no longer fit in my life.  Most of all I knew who I was and am.  So will I hurt another to be true to me, yes.  Its not that I want to hurt others, but I can't hurt me more. I would only expect the same from others. 

So who are you?  What is your worth? What do you have to let go of to trust and have faith in who you are?